approach girls DIRECT vs INDIRECT ASK OUT DATE
Icebreaker Dream Date
Is your dream date within your grasp if you could just get out that first sentence to approach girls? So you’re walking along tending to your business, and along walks a vision, perhaps they have the biggest baby blues, or the greatest smile, or the tightest..well you get the picture. So what are you going to do? Well there are two possible approaches here: direct and indirect.
Direct - By approaching direct you cut through the bull and get right to the point and likely come off as confident which is always attractive. At the same time this can’t be all you say. With experience you will notice an acute uncomfortable pause afterwards when you approach girls, it is crucial that you fill this gap with conversation in order to avoid social discomfort. I have found the best thing to say here is to talk about what you are about to do (you can also invite them along :D) Make it interesting as you they will be judging you’re personality by what you say, and you only have a couple minutes.
Indirect - This is a better approach as you are holding your cards somewhat closer to your chest. Obviously by approaching you are indicating interest, or are you? You could just be being friendly and if you have been practicing this all day with waiters/waitresses and service people (wait, you are doing this right?) you will come off as naturally friendly and approachable. If you pitch a meet at the end of the conversation you will likely come off as less contrived and more natural. Plus you have exhibited your social prowess and attractive personality so now the person has more to judge you on than your looks.
So which is better? Well it depends on your personality and how smooth you are when you approach girls. If you are smooth enough than indirect is far superior. Remember most women are socially conditioned to be conservative and to not elicit attention from strange men even if they are interested, by their parents, religion or the media. By coming in indirect when you approach girls you allow the woman to feel comfortable with you and rationalize that you are now friends and that it is ok to meet up with you. If being indirect would seem un-genuine or there is a time constraint than approaching direct is a bold and uncommon move and will likely be seen as attractive and original if done correctly.
So what do you do next? Most people are uncomfortable approaching girls and sparking attraction. While alot of what I talk about comes from personal experience it helps to have an education on what works. A step by step guide is exactly what most people are looking for. With simple strategies and scientifically proven methods to make attracting that special someone EASY. Like looking for the holy grail isn’t it? Unfortuantely with the amount of drivel being published online these days its hard to know who to trust. One of the products I would recommend is the Double Your Dating DYD ebook and free newsletter series. I have been subscribed to the newsletter for over 5 years and I have always found them to be insightful and honest, with great advice on how to approach girls.
September 26th, 2008 at 3:29 pm
Well i had a dream about my crush and it was me and him making out….why is that dream? what caused it? what does it mean?
September 30th, 2008 at 3:14 pm
Well usually when your conscious wants something your subconscious will manifest it through dreams. Ever had one of those very vivid daydreams that seem SO real. Well thats because your subconscious makes it real in your body because your conscious is not making it happen.
Its so that you can experience how great it would be to be with your crush and hopefully prompt you towards action.
Guys don’t talk like girls too, there is no stigma in approaching him and being a bit direct, as in “hey, I’m Jelissa, I have seen you around, whats your name?” follow this with some small talk and than finish it off with “did you want to grab a coffee sometime? here’s my number” simple and effective, I think people overcomplicate icebreakers sometimes.
The Catch Him and Keep Him product I recommended will also give you the strategies to keep a great guy if thats something else you are worried about.