Personals ads may be a great way to meet people. But lets take a look at the underlying issue here. You are unable to meet the kind of mates that you would want to get into a relationship with. There are two ways to go forward here:

1. Spread your net – this is pretty much what you are doing. Local dating and people you have met through your daily interactions haven’t panned out. So you are taking out personals ads to increase the scope of your search. But what if it isn’t a matter of meeting more people, maybe the issue is that there are certain behaviours, body language and conversations that you are having that are scaring away the type of attractive potential partners you want in your relationships.

2. Get an education – figure out what attracts the opposite sex and use this knowledge to supercharge your dating life. Personal development is about empowering yourself with knowledge which will lead to experience which will lead to results. I think everyone has something amazing to offer and that its simply a matter of tweaking the presentation.

Now this isn’t an either or situation. I would recommend you get an education on dating even if you decide to go ahead with personals relationships. Reason being that you will be more successful in these with this knowledge. My best recommendation on acquiring an education on attraction and dating is Double Your Dating it is a guide which goes into all kinds of science and specific examples that will blow your mind. (this is for guys, they have a sister company called Catch Him and Keep Him for girls)

You will have tons of ‘aha’ moments where all the mistakes you were making before will become so self-evident you will be kicking yourself for not realizing it sooner. David Deangelo the author of Double Your Dating offer a free trial and newsletter so you have no excuse for not signing up. I have been a happy subscriber to his newsletter for over 3 years and I have gotten tons of great ideas from it. I guarantee you will laugh that you ever wanted to take out a personals ad for relationships.

To begin with lets explore what dating actually involves. At its core we date people we are attracted to, hoping to find someone we are compatible with and have a connection with. The piece we unfortunately tend to miss is how attractive we appear to the opposite sex. After all our prospects are dependent on our ability to attract the partners we want.

So it would be prudent to acquire an education on attraction wouldn’t you say. But what is attraction. How is it generated. what are the key underlying factors. Can it be triggered through a certain dress, body language or behaviors. What about what you are saying, how is that affecting peoples perception of you.

Intrigued? Yeah so was I. When I came to the conclusion that attraction is what dating really boils down to, that all the ‘rules’ and ‘etiquette’ can be broken and ignored if attraction is there I knew this was something I had to learn about. So I started reading about social psychology, evolutionary theory, and popular culture on dating. I found a lot of conflicting information as I’m sure you have. Now I was starting to get a bit discouraged, I mean it seemed like there may be a science there but with all this conflicting information I would be hard pressed to prove anything concrete without getting out there and figuring it out through trial and error. Than I remembered something one of my university profs used to say, “don’t reinvent the wheel”.

So I thought to myself I am sure someone else has gone down this path and has figured out how attraction works. I happened across a book that is relatively obscure in popular culture. It was written by a guy named David Deangelo who had been in the same position as me. He was unhappy with the dating life he had. So he spent over 3 years studying and applying his principles to his dating life with great success. He went on to write an amazing dating advice book that was dedicated to explaining attraction and his methodology for communicating with women called cocky funny.

You can take a look at the ebook called Double Your Dating and sign up for his FREE newsletter and trial. That’s right, David Deangelo offers a free trial on his ebook which is value priced at $20. Less than the cost of a steak dinner. Now I’m sure that some of you are skeptical, as I was. But all I can tell you is that you will never EVER use the money back guarantee, you will be so blown away by the material that you will wish (as I damn well did) that you could have learned this stuff years ago. You will see all those past situation where you fumbled sure things in dating or never took advantage of opportunities and go ‘aha’ so that’s what went wrong. This understanding you will gain from this book will allow you to see the ‘social matrix’ as it were. You will be head and shoulders above most guys.

So let me first say that while dating introductions can be a great way to meet new people, it pales next to meeting people in person. Obviously all of you have tried meeting people while your out and about but just can’t seem to find any normal prospects. Now while I can imagine you think you have tried everything to meet people, my honest belief is that most of you could do so much better with the right knowledge.

There are questions that I’m sure most of you have never asked yourself. Questions like how does attraction work in the opposite sex? Do I truly need dating introductions? or could I get an education on attraction and put myself out there more. Have I really worked on expanding my social skillset? Have I invested in myself and my dating life? Have I armed myself with the knowledge and experience that will drive my dating life to what I know I deserve.

These are all interesting questions but I’m sure your asking yourself, well where can I get such an education. To be honest a lot of this comes with experience. You will see on my blog that I talk a lot about icebreakers and approaching strangers. While this may seem scary so is settling with someone you feel inside isn’t up to your standards. You deserve better. Now remember effort without knowledge can be misguided. You should really educate yourself on what works. The beauty of the internet is that there are resources available that can help you achieve much better results based on research others have done. There is no need to reinvent the wheel.

I would recommend you read Double Your Dating for guys and Catch Him and Keep Him for women. These programs provide a world class education on attraction and exactly how to improve and achieve the dating life of your dreams. Don’t sell yourself short with dating introductions. Both these programs come with FREE trials, so don’t cheat yourself out of educating yourself with cynicism. Give them a chance, it WILL change your life.

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Why Men Withdraw, And What To Do About It

What I want to know is why an international superstar can’t find a date. Its interesing to me that fame for a women doesn’t translate to quality dates, whereas fame for a man does. Take Hillary Clinton, do guys want to get with her because she’s a senator or President hopeful. But what about Bill, women around the world wanted to get with him as president.

What I’m getting at is that guys in general value looks above all else, and women don’t. What this means is that the lens most guys use to look at attraction is wrong…which means that most guys simply don’t know what attracts women. This is tragic as a lot of guys go through all kind of things to get women. Like running the rat race, learning unique skills like magic tricks or dancing in order to impress girls. When underlying all this they have no concept of what sparks attraction for most women….

I think alot of guys should check out Double Your Dating for an education on women. In fact women should also get an education on attraction as most women I know want a ‘great catch’. But have put no thought into how to get one, here’s a book form a guy who is a great catch and details exactly what it takes: Catch Him and Keep Him.

So lets break it down: cocky and funny. Cocky is about being confident. I think the word cocky is meant to symbolize that you are secure in your internal state. That no matter what someone says to you, you aren’t phased and that you have the understanding that by being a bit hard-to-get and not a pushover you will attract women. Funny is about diffusing any statements you make that could come off as arrogant.

i.e. if you were to use cocky without funny you might say “so I bet you just want to use me for sex”. depending on your facial expressions and the context, you might get away with this. What would be better is adding some humour or ‘funny’ to it. So instead I would say “i’m not that kind of guy, I’m not just going to let you use me for sex”. Whats the humour here? Well normally it would be the girl saying “I’m not that kind of girl” so you are flipping the gender roles here which is funny and it lets you get away with the rest of the statement.

Now keep in mind two things: 1. you need to get your comedic expression down, meaning it should be said with a bit of humour. 2. It can’t be a complete ‘haha’ kind of humour. It should also have a bit of an edge to it, meaning you have to actually have the confidence to actually believe the line a bit. That most girls would want to get with you. How do you do this? By being confident in yourself. This comes with experience and KNOWLEDGE.

If you haven’t picked up your copy of Double Your Dating. You really Should. It comes with a free trial and newsletter which is full of insights on attraction and clever tactics like cocky and funny. This will give you the KNOWLEDGE you need to get the experience you want in dating. I would highly recommend it to understand cocky funny and more. Here’s how it will break down:

Alot of people want to find someone who shares a common shared nationality, culture or religion. This is a great thing. It leads to finding someone who shares your values and ideals. But when does searching for someone from your community become the settling for mediocrity event of the year. Are asian matchmakers driving you insane with their unreasonalbe choices of people you would never dream of dating.

If you feel like you are settling than you should never ever go ahead with a serious relationship. Look at the statistics…But than what do you do? You can’t seem to find someone appropriate. You have looked and looked. All the people you would like to date don’t seem to want to date you. And all the people who want to date you, you don’t want to date..

Perhaps the answer isn’t looking at other people. Its looking at yourself. ARe you really doing all you can do. ARe you putting your best foot forward, and even if you are, could your best foot be better…What I am getting at is have you actually studied what attracts the opposite sex. After all you can meet as many people through asian matchmakers or matchmaking websites as you want, but if the one’s you find attractive don’t find you attractive you are never going to get what you want.

What I suggest is learning about attraction. Exactly what behaviour, body language, and conversation attracts the kind of partners you want. Once you understand the principles of attraction, everything else will follow in place. THis may sound like pie in the sky type thinking, or some silly sales copy, but honestly once you understand what attracts a mate you will find yourself naturally becoming more attractive. Through knowledge comes power. All of a sudden you will find yourself creating opportunities you never had the self-confidence to achieve before.

Don’t you owe it to yourself to at least give a chance to learning attraction and how it can change your life? Both of the products I recommend come with FREE newsletters and trials, so you have no excuse not to take charge of your own matchmaking. Try out Double Your Dating for guys to understand exactly how to be more confident and try out Catch Him and Keep Him to learn how to make a guy want to emotionally commit to you. They are sister companies who’s authors have spent years understanding attraction. You will have a ton of ‘aha’ moments when reading these as you will realize where you went wrong before, from approaching potential dates, to the dates themselves, to relationships you have been in.

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Why Men Withdraw, And What To Do About It

Lets be honest here….a dating agency for professionals is really the last ditch effort of a desperate person. Why would you want to inflict that kind of torture on yourself. I mean trying your luck with a bunch of strangers who really shouldn’t be classified as human let alone available. After all, you’re a professional, you are well educated, cultured, good looking, why shouldn’t you find someone similar.

So whats the problem? Why is that no one appropriate seems to come around and just magically become your partner. I think that last statement says it all. A lot of people are simply waiting for mr or mrs right to come and whisk them off their couch while they watch reruns of friends on NBC.

Its this kind of thinking that gets you in trouble and keeps you from ever finding someone great to be with. So whats the solution. Well I think the first thing you have to ask yourself is how capable you are socially?. If you were to be put in a room with 100 strangers would you be the one walking around introducing yourself to everyone, or would you be sitting on the side waiting for someone to start talking to you. Becoming more socially adept is critical to finding a potential mate. Its also very important in business and in getting the social life you want. Do you sometimes see those social butterfly types and wish that you could as easily befriend and meet people.

Well you know the only thing they have on you is practice. After all they have been doing this for a while. The other thing they may unconsciously have is a mastery of what attracts people. Now attraction is an interesting thing, can you honestly say you understand what attracts people to you. Could you break down the qualities, mannerisms and even body language that your attraction is comprised of? Could you tell me how someone else gets attracted to you? What the exact things you said/did that made the other person attracted?

Well I can. I’m not some sort of cyborg who can read social cues. I simply did my due diligence and learned about attraction. The best place I know of to learn about what attracts a mate is Double your dating for men and Catch him and keep him for women. They both offer a free newsletter and trial so you have NO EXCUSE!! Once you understand the nuances of attraction for the opposite sex you will be well positioned to start meeting more people and finding more dates. You will laugh that you ever even thought about a dating agency professionals as your dating and social life will be jam packed.

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Why Men Withdraw, And What To Do About It

Well you are 100% wrong. A agency for dating is the last place you want to meet people. After all agency for dating are where people who can’t find a date anywhere else go. Don’t you deserve someone who’s a catch. A person who is smart, attractive, funny and isn’t socially awkward. I know what you’re thinking: Well what if I’m socially awkward and can’t meet anyone either. Well have you ever tried to workout your social muscle? All those people who are social butterflies just have one thing you don’t. Practice. They have been ‘practicing’ being social a lot longer than you. That’s why they are better. Anyone can master being social if they just work at it. But there is a catch. You have to understand at a fundamental level what works and what doesn’t and focus on what does.

How are you going to know what works? Well you are trying to meet a potential partner right? Do you understand what attracts the opposite sex. Have you ever taken the time to get an education on attraction? If you even found a good agency for dating would you be able to attract the partner you wanted? Let me tell you that understanding how the opposite sex gets attracted is not easy. It is completely different from the way you get attracted and its very counterintuitive. If you take an objective look though, a scientific look, based on evolutionary principles and human psychology you will see that it actually can make a lot of sense. What you need is an education on attraction, once you understand attraction it will be like seeing the matrix. You will have the insight to see when to say what, how to get over awkwardness and how to win over people.

I know the women reading this are laughing, saying of course I know what attracts a man, my boobs, my legs, and my ass. Well yes sexually that is what attracts a man, but what about emotionally….hmmm…..never thought about that did you. Why do you think that whenever you meet a great guy you never seem to be able to keep him. I would recommend you read Catch Him and Keep Him by Christian Carter it is a proven program written by an attractive, successful, and charismatic guy who tells women what they don’t want to hear. The ugly truth about men and their inner workings.

For the guys out there I would recommend you read Double Your Dating it’s a guide on attraction, with lots of useful tips like how to know when to kiss a girl for the first time. It also has a free trial and newsletter with lots of great tips and tricks. So you have no excuse not to get this part of your life handled.

Even if you decide to go ahead and find an agency for dating, this information is critical to being able to attract the candidates the agency for dating will find you. I would highly recommend you read an appropriate book on attraction, either Double Your Dating for men or Catch Him and Keep Him for women before you go through a dating agency. It has helped me immensely, now let it help you.

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Why Men Withdraw, And What To Do About It

There is a lot to be said about dating someone who shares similar values and social status as yourself. Statistically it is proven that relationships between professionals of equal socio-economic standing are more likely to be successful than the average. So you are looking for a professionals introductions service to help you meet your partner. But what if you could meet other professionals simply through introducing yourself. After all you are a professional yourself, you work and play in the same circles. Why should it be so hard to meet and connect with other professionals?

Well to begin with you have to evaluate what you know about being social and how you are working towards increasing your social skills. A lot of people talk about getting ahead in their career, but very few talk about getting ahead in their personal life. Have you given any thought to it at all? Do you have a 5 year plan for your career? Of course, you do. But what about for your personal life? Is your plan something along the lines of meet that special someone, than get married, than have kids. Period. Wrong! You need to proactively plan for success in your personal life too.

So how do you go about doing this. Well to begin with lets look at becoming more social and attracting a potential partner. Well do you understand how attraction works? Can you honestly say you have given any thought to what attracts the opposite sex. Trust me, its different than what attracts you. And it isn’t necessarily obvious. Women do you think that all you have to do is be sexually appealing and a man who is a great catch will find you attractive on an emotional level? Do you even know how to attact a man on an emotional level. And for guys, do you know how attraction works for a female? Do you understand why a girl takes time to get turned on, and can get turned off when you say even the smallest thing wrong. Well it would make sense than that you should get an education on attraction. I know I’m talking to the right crowd on education, as all of you obviously value it. Well nows the time to get an education that will get you ahead in your personal life. Try out Double Your Dating for men it comes with a free trial and newsletter jam packed with amazing tips. And Catch Him and Keep Him for women which also has a free newsletter and trial. They are sister companies both experts in understanding attraction, and how to maintain a successful relationship. I have personally gone through the Double Your Dating program with great success and have improved my social skills both personally and professionally!

So try out the programs and I guarantee you won’t need to even bother with an agency for professionals introductions. You will be meeting so many people in your day to day professional interactions because of these programs that it will pay itself over many times in agency fees you would have paid. Cheers to your social success.

Alot of people say men and women can’t be friends. That one or both of them will eventually want more, relationships, dating, etc. Now the question is: will this ruin the friendship? Only if not done properly. There are certain steps and preventative measures that need to be taken. So lets examine this problem with some introspective questions:

1. Are you only interested in your friend as you have trouble finding dates and feel this is your only outlet? If this is the case I would recommend you get yourself an understanding of attraction. I believe everyone can attract the mate they want if they educate themselves on the opposite sex. Ask yourself honestly, how much do you understand of what makes the opposite sex physically and emotionally attracted.

Now for a girl the physical for guys is easy, boobs & legs. But what about emotionally? Do you know what guys look for emotionally from a girl and how to win over those great catches that will make amazing long term relationship material. For a guy, girls seem like crazy emotional psychopaths in heels. They are up one minute, down the next, they seem to be attracted to the douchiest of douches imaginable. But is that just your perception? I can honestly tell you that once I understood where girls are coming from, I competely sympathize with their plight. I mean so few guys understand how women work that when you do you are in demand and it is so easy to handle girls they want to be treated, with little to no effort on your part. I would highly recommend you get smart and get an education on attraction.