how to date girls FIRST DATES THAT GET YOU LAID
Have you ever wanted to take a girl on a first date and make an impression? Do you feel that you’re first dates are always tired and not memorable? Do you know that most women judge an entire relationship by a first date and may never give you a second, even if they really liked you.
Lets get to the fundamentals of how to date girls and taking them out on a first date that will knock their socks off…and hopefully more. Now to begin with lets analyze the typical first date scenario:
Dinner and a movie - this is possibly the worst combination of activities you could pick, short of taking her to your AA meeting. Seriously. Why? Well lets say you start off at an expensive dinner, good right? I mean who doesn’t like good food. Wrong. You sit across from each other, awkward silence follows awkward silence. You can’t be loud and fun because its a serious place meant for serious talk. You end up paying because you’re a gentleman and she gets the feeling you are covering up your own flaws by trying to buy your way into her pants. Great. Now you guys decide to go to a movie. Terrific. Two hours spent in the dark as you stare at a screen instead of each other. Now its late, there has been little to no physical contact between you two and you are chit chatting about the movie (hopefully at least) instead of sharing glimpses of each others personality. Now this is not to say that a really great guy couldn’t do well at this, or that if you guys have sufficient chemistry and are compatible enough this couldn’t be overcome. But why put yourself in a difficult spot for no reason.
Rule #1 - Always have somewhere planned to go, never say what do you feel like. Have backups and make them good, not fucking Mcdonalds.
Rule #2 - Try making plans earlier in the day. This allows the opportunity for you two to spend the day together. Alot of guys say end a date early to leave her wanting more, I agree with this, but if a date is going really well than I would carry it forward and get the full leverage out of it. Especially if you see this girl as relationship material. If you change alot of locations and get her used to being with you it builds comfort, a critical ingredient to upping the physical contact between you two and forming a relationship.
Food - I prefer not to make eating the primary activity, but if you end up spending the day together than go ahead. Now if you are going to eat somewhere make it casual, make it a place you usually go (not fastfood) thats a gem in the rough. A hole in the wall spot that you know about and like. Bring her into your reality, let her know what it would be like if you two were in a relationship. And treat as if you two are already in a relationship. Don’t be afraid to express yourself. Don’t censor yourself and make the date too PC and ultimately forgettable. Oh and sit beside her instead of across from her. This way you can playfully bump her, grab her hand, kiss her easily, etc. If she asks why, just say you want to be able to check out the other customers, or that you hate sitting across from people interview style.
Physical Activity - The best possible date is one where you are both physically active. A walk in an interesting or picturesque area is my favorite as it allows you two to talk as you walk and if you run out of conversation topics you can use the environment to find topics. Whats really great is if there is a market or some sort of merchandise store on the way. It doesn’t matter what it is as long as you two can be silly and try stuff on or play with stuff.
Rule #3 - As the guy it is your job to make ALL the physical advances. Yes ALL of them. If a girl makes one than great, its a bonus. But its your responsibility. And don’t make them too soon, wait until you see her looking at you out of the corner of her eye. Hard to explain, but she will be watching you when you’re not looking and you will feel like you are being watched. Also judge by her comfort level. Is she withdrawn or are her arms crossed? Or is she smiling and bouncing around. I make it very obvious rather than sneaking up on her. If I want to hold her hand I will hold out mine to her and she will grab it. It is bold as she may not grab it, but at least you know where you are. And it isn’t the kiss of death if she doesn’t, it simply means you haven’t built enough comfort with her. Girls love a confident guy and thats what you showed there, confidence.
Now the next logical question is “how do I kiss her?”. There is something called the ‘kiss test’ it is a guaranteed risk free way of knowing when to kiss her. Risk free meaning she won’t know you are testing before kissing her. I am going to let my friend David Deangelo tell you about this one: Kiss Test – Double Your Dating. His ebook is a great way to further your dating skills and I would highly recommend it. A lot of the principles behind why my articles are so effective is within that book. He offers a free trial and newsletter, which is jam packed with free insights and tips. So you have no reason not to learn about what attracts girls. And with my guide on dates you will be finding yourself having a lot more overnight visitors..
Use the 'kiss test' to know when she wants to be kissed...
